by Kare Anderson | Jun 1, 2013 | behavior, Conflict, Connecting, decisionmaking, Persuasion, Research
Modern “social” life is ripe for temptation to embellish our stories, so it’s especially helpful to recognize some myths and counter-intuitive truths about lying. 1. What Do Those Apparently Shifty Eyes Mean? When someone is telling you something and looks up to the...
by Kare Anderson | May 27, 2013 | behavior, Connecting, Persuasion, Research
As the invisible gorilla test famously proved, we are sometimes blind to what’s happening around us, and oblivious to signs that sway us. To become more aware of how you are influenced by what you see and hear, and to get ideas on how to influence others, here are...
by Kare Anderson | May 19, 2013 | behavior, Collective Intelligence, Connecting, contagion
AP. IRS. Benghazi. Rather than jumping into the heated battle of competing narratives about Obama’s three “scandals” or ignoring this high-stakes story, follow it for insights on how to influence by labeling. Notice, for example, how the “scandal” label has stuck and...
by Kare Anderson | May 5, 2013 | behavior, Book, Caring, Connecting
She’d been fidgeting for some while. Suddenly, she turned and started talking to me. For two hours we’d sat silently, side-by-side at the airport gate, waiting for our small commuter airplane. Leaning on the narrow metal armrest that divided our seats, she looked...
by Kare Anderson | Feb 10, 2013 | Book, Connecting
“All of the significant battles are waged within the self,” wrote Sheldon Kopp. Some of our biggest inside battles are changing habits to create a more meaningful, congenial life with others. Instead we instinctively, unhappily focus on: • Those who seem...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 13, 2013 | behavior, Book, Conflict, Connecting, influence
After nearly 15 years of vehement denials, Armstrong may own up, it is rumored. He promises he’ll answer Oprah’s interview questions “directly, honestly and candidly.” Yet this is already a very public, social situation that even includes newspaper ads...
