by Kare Anderson | Jun 22, 2019 | Article, behavior, Conflict, Connecting, Likeability
When you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Hint: “The opposite...
by Kare Anderson | Jun 20, 2019 | Article, behavior, mutuality matters, partnering
Probably the last thing the crowd waiting in line outside the movie theatre was expecting was the serious-faced high school drama students walking towards them with outstretched arms holding silver platters, and asking, “Would you want a Wonderbar?” then breaking out...
by Kare Anderson | Jun 19, 2019 | Article, behavior, Friendship
Humor sometimes requires a target. If you make a bulls-eye out of someone weaker, particularly if you initiate the attack, you look like a bully. Take aim, instead, at the powerful. Or, rather than getting upset, consider yourself lucky when someone makes you a target...
by Kare Anderson | Jun 15, 2019 | behavior, Book, Connecting, contagion
To this day I’m mortified when I see a box of chocolates. I was in the Antwerp airport, heading back to San Francisco. Before settling into a seat at my gate I bought two indulgences for the flight home, John le Carré’s Our Kind of Traitor and a box of Pierre...
by Kare Anderson | Jun 14, 2019 | behavior, decisionmaking
Ironically, both psychopaths and Tibetan monks detect deep emotions that are invisible to others. Psychopaths are much better at recognizing “those telltale signs in the gait of traumatized assault victims,” notes The Wisdom of Psychopaths author, Kevin...
