by Kare Anderson | Jun 27, 2016 | behavior, Choice
“Whenever you’ve felt profound fear, it was usually linked to the presence of danger, imminent pain or death, said security firm founder and author of the classic book, The Gift of Fear, Gavin DeBecker. In a National Public Radio interview he said, “When you feel...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 20, 2016 | behavior, Choice, Conflict, Connecting, Friendship
Whatever behavior we praise we encourage to flourish in others – especially when they are around us. Whatever we criticize or “simply” snub goes deeper into their consciousness however. Hint: Speak to their positive intent, especially when it appears they...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 18, 2016 | behavior, Choice
Partners — romantic and otherwise — tend to fight when one feels neglected or threatened. When Peter Bregman’s wife yelled from two rooms away, “at least pack the shampoo” she was feeling neglected. See how Bregman turned a potentially...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 16, 2016 | Choice, Connecting, Cooperation
When things go wrong, we tend to blind ourselves to other’s feelings. We are more likely to fall into a destructive behavioral trap. Sadly, when we do, we cannot be empathic. We weaken that human bond that’s vital to re-grouping and resilience. These...
by Kare Anderson | Sep 13, 2015 | behavior, Choice
To live a more congruent, satisfying and accomplished life with others consider what these three stories have in common: 1. “Train hard, laugh harder” could have been the motto of the U.S. national soccer team when two-time Olympic gold medal winner, Julie Foudy, was...
by Kare Anderson | Sep 6, 2014 | behavior, Caring, Choice, Connecting, mutuality matters
When I was an “on-air talent” on an NBC show, one of the first things they tested before I was hired was my likeability, what the TV industry and others dub the “Q” factor. Even though I tested high on that range I was keenly aware that it mattered more than my...
