by Kare Anderson | Mar 14, 2010 | behavior, Choice, Conflict, Connecting
When things go wrong, we tend to blind ourselves to other’s feelings. We are more likely to fall into a destructive behavioral trap. Sadly, when we do, we cannot be empathic. We weaken that human bond that’s vital to re-grouping and resilience. These blinding mindsets...
by Kare Anderson | Oct 31, 2009 | behavior, collaboration, Conflict, Friendship, Learning
When you first glimpse someone (or something) new your brain reacts instantly, but you knew that. What’s destructive is that when you instinctively feel danger – or simply irritation – you respond quicker, longer and more intensely than if you feel safe or...
by Kare Anderson | May 27, 2009 | Book, Conflict, Connecting
He takes a stupid stand. (Translation: he hit my hot button.) My first response is to dislike him. (Apparently that’s a universal reaction.) My distaste shows on my face and in my tone, despite my attempt to cover my feelings in a cloak of civility. Even friends or...
by Kare Anderson | Feb 19, 2009 | behavior, Collective Clout, Conflict
When women and men were beat up in a Mangalore pub for “violating traditional Indian values” some decried it as “Talibanisation of India.” Thousands have seen the video. Yet even the National Commission for Women there, also condemned “the loosening of moral...
by Kare Anderson | Dec 15, 2008 | behavior, Conflict
Rather than a fake-friendly question to highlight his ignorance, a sarcastic retort, shouting or silently seething – try alleviating the friction that’s at the core of the conflict. I’m not saying it’s easy. Yet unsettled resentments usually cause two-way...
