by Kare Anderson | Aug 6, 2012 | behavior, Book, Choice, Conflict, Connecting, decisionmaking
Ashamed as I am to admit after all these years, my instinctive reaction is to defend or retreat still kicks into gear when I feel wronged or simply slightly mistreated. When others appear to be behaving badly, we tend to sink into our own feelings, blinding ourselves...
by Kare Anderson | Jun 19, 2012 | behavior, Book, Conflict, decisionmaking
Long ago one of my heroes, the unflappable and well-liked Howard Raiffa once said something like, “It is easier to deal with a jerk who knows what he wants than a pleasant person who doesn’t.” He also offered this gem in his classic book, The Art and Science of...
by Kare Anderson | Dec 18, 2011 | Caring, Choice, Conflict, Connecting, Give Back, inspiration, Likeability, Listening, love, Sharing
Holidays are times of great loving and loneliness and we often don’t know who is experiencing which. For many it is a bit of both. For us all this can be a prime time for kindness, sometimes by sharing what we have. And kindness is often unspoken. “An eye can threaten...
by Kare Anderson | Dec 5, 2011 | Book, Choice, Conflict, Connecting
Wincing I glanced down. It hadn’t taken much to make that small blister appear in the hollow of my palm, that most tender of places on one’s hand. It’s my writing hand where a thin flap of skin now folded back. I’d just planted 30 daffodil bulbs in my garden but had...
by Kare Anderson | Jul 26, 2010 | Caring, Conflict, Cooperation, love
Partners – romantic and otherwise – tend to fight when one feels neglected or threatened. When Peter Bregman’s wife yelled from two rooms away, “at least pack the shampoo” she was feeling neglected. Recognizing which underlying feeling is being evoked helps you know...
by Kare Anderson | May 10, 2010 | behavior, Book, Conflict, Cooperation, Friendship, partnering
“’There was this joke that when the women who worked in the lab were stressed, they came in, cleaned the lab, had coffee, and bonded,” Dr. Laura Cousin Klein told Gale Berkowitz. “When the men were stressed, they holed up somewhere on their own. I...
