by Kare Anderson | Apr 4, 2018 | behavior, Conflict, Connecting, Friendship, Likeability, Listening
When I saw my dear friend, Daniel, walking down the hall toward me that morning I smiled and held up the book I’d gotten for him. When Daniel saw me he looked stricken. Then he quickly wheeled around and shot into the men’s room. Deeply hurt, I avoided him for several...
by Kare Anderson | Apr 11, 2016 | behavior, Connecting, Likeability
In a study I dub “Are you powerful or not?” guess what category you might fall into? At Northwestern and Stanford, here’s what happened. Two professors, Adam Galinsky, Professor of Ethics & Decision Management, Northwestern University and Joe Magee, of the Wagner...
by Kare Anderson | Mar 12, 2016 | behavior, Caring, Friendship, Likeability
“I swear, my dear. Sometimes our conversations remind me of a broken sword. She raised an eyebrow. Sharp as hell, he said, but lacking a point” wrote Brandon Sanderson in Warbreaker. Until you find the lure and the hook on which someone will bite, you...
by Kare Anderson | Jun 29, 2014 | behavior, Choice, Likeability, Miscellaneous
When you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this ironic opportunity. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Hint:...
by Kare Anderson | Aug 30, 2013 | behavior, Book, Caring, Connecting, Friendship, Likeability, Listening
“I swear, my dear. Sometimes our conversations remind me of a broken sword.” She raised an eyebrow. “Sharp as hell,” he said, “but lacking a point.” ~ Brandon Sanderson, Warbreaker Real Conversation Is Akin To Catching A Fish Until you find the lure and hook on which...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 23, 2013 | behavior, Book, Likeability, Listening, love
Dr. Pierre Mornell knew he’d hit a raw nerve when both men and women began fervently nodding during his lecture on “modern man’s main secret.” That was in 1987 yet a behavioral scientist I interviewed recently said it felt like yesterday when he sat in that agitated...
