by Kare Anderson | Feb 3, 2016 | love, Speaker/Audience, Teach, Visual
She’d been fidgeting for some while. Suddenly, she turned and started talking to me. For two hours we’d sat silently, side-by-side at the airport gate, waiting for our small commuter airplane. Leaning on the narrow metal armrest that divided our hard seats, she...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 23, 2013 | behavior, Book, Likeability, Listening, love
Dr. Pierre Mornell knew he’d hit a raw nerve when both men and women began fervently nodding during his lecture on “modern man’s main secret.” That was in 1987 yet a behavioral scientist I interviewed recently said it felt like yesterday when he sat in that agitated...
by Kare Anderson | May 26, 2012 | behavior, Book, Choice, Connecting, love
They don’t listen. Some women are nodding as they read this and some men feel prickles of irritation. And what do men most resent about women other than not enough, well, you know? Women try to change (“improve”) their man. You’ve probably experienced, first hand, a...
by Kare Anderson | Dec 18, 2011 | Caring, Choice, Conflict, Connecting, Give Back, inspiration, Likeability, Listening, love, Sharing
Holidays are times of great loving and loneliness and we often don’t know who is experiencing which. For many it is a bit of both. For us all this can be a prime time for kindness, sometimes by sharing what we have. And kindness is often unspoken. “An eye can threaten...
by Kare Anderson | Jul 26, 2010 | Caring, Conflict, Cooperation, love
Partners – romantic and otherwise – tend to fight when one feels neglected or threatened. When Peter Bregman’s wife yelled from two rooms away, “at least pack the shampoo” she was feeling neglected. Recognizing which underlying feeling is being evoked helps you know...
by Kare Anderson | Dec 14, 2009 | behavior, Book, Caring, Friendship, Likeability, love
Something in yesterday’s “Modern Love“ column struck me as ringing true, not only for enduring marriages but for flourishing friendships, “Being single is all about the future, about the person you’re going to meet at Starbucks or after answering the next scientific...
